by Amy Ryan Rued ~
EFT, short for Emotional Freedom Techniques, is one of the best ways you can change your beliefs, which is the theme for this month’s newsletter. Before we delve into are area of beliefs, let’s first provide a little background on EFT, which many know as tapping.
Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) is an effective, safe and easy-to-learn healing modality that uses the body’s energy meridian points to provide dramatic relief to a wide variety of issues. EFT has its roots in Chinese medicine dating back to more than 5,000 years ago and uses the same meridian points applied with acupuncture, only with tapping, your fingertips take the place of needles, which is why you hear EFT referred to as “acupuncture without needles.” By the way, meridians are the body’s major energy pathways and when energy is balanced, it flows easily throughout these channels.
The remarkable benefit of tapping is that it works equally well on physical, emotional and psychological issues. However, most people erroneously assume that EFT is just “one” technique. In fact, tapping comprises of 48 distinct techniques and a trained certified EFT practitioner may use many different ones to produce results for their clients. That’s why EFT is called Emotional Freedom Techniques (plural).
How Does EFT Work?
EFT is a tool we can practice on ourselves. To begin this process, identify a problem and note how you’re feeling about it. Then rate the intensity of that emotion on a scale from “0” (no fear) to “10” (“off the charts” terror). Begin tapping 6-8 times on each meridian point (see diagram to the left) while simultaneously focusing on whatever is bothering you, and acknowledge the negative emotions you are feeling. Either verbalize (or silently state), “I’m so scared, I’m afraid this will happen.” Many people avoid admitting any negativity but in doing so you don’t have to be concerned that you’re reinforcing your negative emotions—you’re not. Instead, bringing them to light sets your unconscious attention to the issue you’re dealing without ignoring or denying it, thus allowing you to deeply focus on the problem at hand, so you can release the underlying belief, heal the issue and create what you desire.
The next part is to follow the statement with an acceptance of what you’re going through without judgment, an example is: “I have this fear and I accept that I have it but I’m still a good person.” This helps you to set the stage to acknowledge the issue, and not blame yourself for having it.
Tune In and Tap
It is noteworthy to point out that tapping can be used without words. Simply “tune in and tap.” These are times when you are so attuned to the problem that using words is unnecessary. Just place your attention on what’s happening while you continue tapping and before long, you’ll breathe a sigh of relief. During the process, you might yawn or breathe deeper which are sure signs that energy is moving through your body. Several weeks ago, I recall being upset and retreated to the couch to tap. Before long, my emotions and thoughts shifted to: “I can handle this!” Then it was back bed where I slept soundly!
EFT can be used for innumerable problems—it could be for a reoccurring memory, the pain in your back or a limiting belief on an issue that’s causing you anxiety. As an example, my husband and I were on a flight returning from a trip and I couldn’t help but notice the couple sitting next to me, particularly the man who was two seats over and “white-knuckling” his armrest. Once airborne, the three of us struck up a conversation, which is when I learned that the husband (who I’ll call Sam) was terrified of a plane taking off and landing; otherwise flying didn’t bother him. Ten minutes into chatting, I told him of a quick technique that would help him with his fear then I dropped any more mention of it during the three-hour flight.
As we were approaching our descent, Sam asked nervously about the technique, so we did a couple of rounds of tapping, lasting less than four minutes. As the plane touched ground, I was happy to see him visibly calm and holding his wife’s hand—not clutching the armrest. At that point, Sam exclaimed in astonishment, “Well, I be darned,” and was flabbergasted that something so quick and simple had alleviated his fear so rapidly.
There are so many instances of instantaneous results such as this that EFT has been called the “One-Minute Wonder.” However, in all fairness, although in most cases EFT can provide quick relief, there are many issues that require more time to dissipate. In these cases, a trained EFT practitioner will know that successful treatment may involve using several techniques, requiring a process known as “peeling an onion” that addresses the conflicts layer by layer as the individual issues are removed.
Beliefs and EFT
EFT helps alter your thinking which results in changing your beliefs. Tapping rewires the brain through a process called neuroplasticity, which, in a nutshell, is the brain’s amazing ability to adapt to change.
Tapping also helps you transform the way you view the world. What stops us from feeling good? Usually the beliefs that have been hardwired in our brains date back to our childhood. As a result, you get triggered today because a long, long ago, to a time that you can’t even remember, someone told you that you were stupid or would never amount to anything, or that your brother was a better athlete and on and on.
Tapping often leads you to a memory that connects you to unveiling an incident which is the root cause of the issue. During this memory recall, you may have an epiphany where you realize, “Oh, the reason I have test anxiety in college and have convinced myself I am stupid is because in third grade my teacher announced to the entire class that I was the only one who failed the spelling exam.” In that moment decades ago, you formed a belief that, “I am stupid and an idiot” and carried that belief forward through the years, never tracing back to this third-grade incident yet you repeatedly found yourself in positions where you confirmed this “idiot belief.” Thus, your unconscious programming confirmed its validity—even though deep down it was never true. However, in that moment of revelation, EFT offered a resolution to this long-held “stupid” belief.
Subsequently—and usually unknowingly—our subconscious has kept us safe or what it has interpreted as safe for us. Going back to the third-grade incident, the amygdala reacted to his test-taking by sending an alarm to the body saying, “Don’t take that exam, you’ll only fail again and then you’ll be disappointed, embarrassed, humiliated and laughed at.” At the same time that it’s communicating that message, your body is flooded with a stress hormone known as cortisol. It doesn’t matter if you’re a genius, know the material on the test inside and out, and studied more than enough to do exceptionally well. Your beliefs say otherwise. There’s a remedy: when tapping steps in, it fortifies calmness in our brain and body—and gives you permission to release your angst, whereby you experience a cognitive shift that can allow you to realize, “Hey, I know this material, I studied for this test and I’ll ace the exam!” Voilá, your beliefs now empower you!
EFT enables you to rewire and reprogram your brain with the beliefs that allow you to be happy, to be successful, to be loving. Therefore, instead of thinking repetitive, negative thoughts that don’t serve you, with tapping, you can release the “bad” thoughts and replace them with beneficial, empowering beliefs. Tapping also enables you to change your self-talk and your inner dialogue along with your beliefs.
Try EFT for Yourself Right Now
To experience EFT right now, just Click here for an introductory video. If you want to know more, the founder of EFT, Gary Craig, has an enlightening 7-minute video that provides a great over of EFT. Just Click here to access it.
EFT in the Media/News
More and more, tapping is being recognized and going mainstream. Perhaps you have seen EFT featured in these venues:
- The Today Show with Megan Kelley (aired January 16, 2018)
- Athletes using EFT to enhance their performance (An Olympian in Rio and a college baseball player taps)
- Contestants on American Idol were seen tapping backstage to alleviate the jitters before going on stage (although I wasn’t able to find this video, a clip was shown in the news)
- The Veterans Administration approved EFT as a treatment for Veterans in July 2017
Areas to Apply EFT- Here are just a handful of ways EFT can improve your life or those of your loved ones.
EFT for Business Transformation
Entrepreneurs and Solopreneurs can experience accelerated growth in their business using EFT to clear fears and apprehension about achieving the next level. Know that it’s not necessary lack of business savvy that is holding you back, but more than likely it’s your limiting beliefs about your abilities that’s thwarting your progress. It’s the story you’re telling yourself—a.k.a., your beliefs—that’s stopping you.
Tapping can uncover where you might be stuck. It will help you shift your negative beliefs so what you deemed as impossible in your business before tapping now seems probable. The more you tap, the deeper the neural connections wire you for success. Isn’t it time for you to shine!
EFT and Your Health
EFT can significantly improve your physical and mental well-being! Countless physical and emotional issues have been resolved using EFT. Interestingly, while writing this article my Mom emailed me and had been to the doctors earlier that morning due to an ear infection and high blood pressure concerns. Naturally, when we spoke following the doctors visit, I suggested that she tap. Here’s the message I received after she applied EFT:
“My blood pressure was 185/58 at the doctor’s office. I took it again after tapping and it was 152/55. I was really so glad. Love!”
How cool is that! EFT works again!
Incidentally, did you know that a majority of doctor and emergency room visits are stress-related? It’s the beliefs about what people are confronting that manifest physically, showing up as panic attacks and other ailments. In this Huffington Post article on Unhealthy Work, author Peter Schnall reports that, “stress has exploded to an invisible, $1 trillion health epidemic.” Wouldn’t it be amazing if a EFT practitioner could deliver tapping to those waiting in doctors’ offices and ER’s to those who were interested in an effective way to quell their stress and fears?
EFT for Your Family
Tapping is for the entire family! Let’s face it—we all get triggered by our relatives. Families are breeding ground for inevitable spats. Yet, our parents were never given a “Parent Manual” upon our entry into the world, and were doing the best that they could, given the circumstances in which they were raised. The same goes for their parents, your grandparents.
At the same time, kids were not provided with a “How to Not Drive Your Parents Crazy” guide. The result—inevitable familial conflict based on their beliefs embedded in their psyche while growing up. The antidote—allow EFT to alleviate squabbles before they escalate. We’ve all heard of siblings who’ve not spoken to each other in decades. Usually that occurs due to their beliefs about how they were treated. Instead, stay in the room and iron out what needs to be addressed before your disempowering beliefs spill into other relationships.
When the entire family taps, interactions between family members can be enhanced, misunderstandings minimized, and helpful beliefs are instilled.
EFT for Students
Today’s classrooms are different from when I grew up. We didn’t lock the door to our homes or our cars; and certainly a “no-gun” zone wasn’t part of our experience. Imagine the pressure kids and teens face every day: bullying; attempting to achieve high scores on standardized tests; the stress of what is on the news each day—these and more concerns present increasing challenges to students. Their beliefs could easily be that life is too hard and even, “what’s the use?”
As a result, there’s a growing movement among teachers to incorporate EFT in the classroom. When tensions rise, more and more teachers are using EFT to diffuse the tension rather than the old-style approach of “time out.” These two videos show the effectiveness of EFT for students:
The sobering statistic that 22 veterans take their life every day is devastating. It’s heart-wrenching that these brave men and women return from combat only to face ongoing horrors of war in their own mind through flashbacks, hyper-vigilance and suicidal ideations. Often, in an effort to cope they engage in alcohol and drug abuse. Understandably, when veterans do not receive the help they rightly deserve, their beliefs lead them to decide the world is not safe. The dangers of the battlefield replay over and over in their mind, affecting their jobs, family life and relationships, not to mention self-esteem.
One of the ways veterans have turned their lives around is through EFT. The Stress Project is a nonprofit organization dedicated to providing vets with free to low-cost EFT sessions via practitioners located throughout the U.S. I strongly encourage the reader to visit this website and learn what The Stress Project is doing to help our veterans access EFT.
Thankfully, within the last year, the Veterans Administration has finally approved EFT as an effective treatment for PTSD. And a veteran here in the Columbus area has established an EFT group available free to veterans who have PTSD or any kind of stress. Please contact me at Amy@TappingWithFriends.com to obtain more information and/or to join.
EFT for Dating
Finding a match can be challenging. Who doesn’t want to meet that special someone? Yet, do you have certain beliefs such as, “all the good ones are taken,” or “everyone I meet is emotionally unavailable,” etc.? Those beliefs are the ones that keep relationships at arms-length, beliefs that will cause a person to just give up. Usually these are beliefs that have been hardwired in our brains since we were wee high. As Dr. Phil would inquire, “How’s that working for you?”
The use of EFT with the guidance of a practitioner will enable the person who has given up to start dismantling these beliefs. Once these limiting beliefs are destroyed and thrown to the wind, the EFT practitioner can help to guide their client toward establishing new, empowering beliefs that may lead to confidence in establishing a new, satisfying, mutually beneficial relationship.
EFT and Gratitude
This combination of EFT and gratitude reinforces a belief of the blessings prevalent in your life right now. Frequently, when we’re feeling out of sorts, we complain and end up concentrating on the problems in our life. When we tap as we express the goodness surrounding us, we shift to a sense of wonderful appreciation for how much we truly have.
Take 60 seconds right now and tap while you thank all the people, events and things in your life for which you are grateful. It will do your heart, mind and body infinite good and start to shift your beliefs!
More Ways EFT Can Help You
The above areas represent a handful of how you can alter your beliefs with EFT; here are a few more where tapping can assist you to address your beliefs:
- Overcome Fear of Public Speaking
- Eliminate Phobias
- Lose Weight—and Keep it Off
- Stop Procrastinating and Get ‘er done
- Banish Panic Attacks
- Get A Good Night’s Sleep (Bye-bye Insomnia)
- Focus on the Task at Hand, and
- Ta-da—Change Your Beliefs to Serve You in the most Magnificent Way!
One last point. EFT helps us help ourselves—and when we feel content, we want to help others, which can lead to creating a safer, calmer, more loving world.
Gary Craig (the founder of EFT as stated above) has a motto for tapping, recommending that we: “Try it on Anything!” I would add, “Try EFT to change your Beliefs about Everything!” Tapping works!
Try EFT now to take the first step in letting go of the beliefs that are holding you back, so you can experience more joy, purpose and fulfillment! Tapping enables you to step out of your comfort zone and be the fabulous, competent, awe-inspiring person you were meant to be all along! Be that person—for yourself and the world!
Amy Ryan Rued, M.A., is a Business/Life Transformation Coach who is a Certified Emotional Freedom Techniques and EFT Matrix Reimprinting Practitioner. She can be reached by at 614-305-5108 or email at Amy@TappingWithFriends.com You can also visit her website at: www.TappingWithFriends.com